January 4, 2016
Are you getting sick and tired of hearing New Year’s Resolutions? Maybe because they rarely come to fruition? It’s a customary wish list, or lofty goals that are soon forgotten. (until the next year rolls around).
Instead of losing weight, getting a promotion, new car or bigger house…how about, just being nice? Sounds so simple, right? If so, then why are so many people “not nice”?
The first response that pops into my mind is, ego! People get so used to doing things the way they always have done them, so any change or openness to something new, different or (gasp) something do they do not understand or agree with, causes a defensiveness and the EGO takes over at full speed.
In prison, many lives had become virtually powerless. Conforming to the Bureau of Prison rules and regulations became the norm and any lack of compliancy created another type of suffering. So we surrendered any power we thought we had, realizing we had none.
Oddly in becoming powerless, many women were able to give up any expectancy or entitlement issues, slowly and painfully the letting go process begins. The letting go process is a surrendering, but not giving up. The surrendering is “letting in” of a new way to observe, create and think. It is the path to a Spiritual awakening.
Learning to find peace within myself and leaning on a greater power, I found enlightenment and compassion for others, of whom I probably would had never spoken with in my former life.
Giving up the need to judge, critique or discriminate gave me a power in my own weakness. Apostle Paul said, “it is when I am weak that I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).
It’s so much easier to accept people for who they are, and although you may not agree with them, you can at least be nice. You might find yourself less miserable!
If you want to be happier, start with something small, something you might teach your little children. Just be nice!
Happy Days, Holly